how to have better understanding through communication~

8 RULES OF RESPECTFUL COMMUNICATION

1 ~ If you have a problem with me, come to me privately.

2 ~ If I have a problem with you, I'll come to you privately.

3 ~ If someone has a problem with me and comes to you, send them to me (I'll do the same for you). If that someone will not come to me, say, "Let's go together; I'm sure he/she will see us about this."

4 ~ Be careful on how you interpret me - let me do that for you. On matters that unclear, do not feel pressured to interpret my feelings and thoughts. It's easy to misrepresent intentions, so please ask me to clarify.

5 ~ I will be careful on how I interpret you.

6 ~ If it's confidential, don't tell me. If anyone comes to me in confidence, I won't tell unless the person is going to harm him/herself, or physically harm someone else, or a child has been (or is in danger) being abused. I expect the same from you.

7 ~ I do not manipulate; I will not be manipulated; don't let others manipulate you; don't let others manipulate me through you.

8 ~ When in doubt, just ask. If I can answer without breaking a confidence, I will.

(Adapted from : Charles Christian)

sekadar gambar hiasan.

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are you an apple or a banana?

Some motivational story :


You must learn that you cannot be loved by all people - sorry.
Let's say, you are an APPLE . . .

You can be the finest apple in the world wide world - ripe, juicy, sweet, and succulent -
and offer yourself to all.
But . . . . . . . . .

There will always be people who do not like apples!
They don't value the fact that you are the finest apple in the whole world!
So then you have the choice of becoming their favourite fruit, let's say,
a BANANA . . . . . . .

True, you do have that choice if you are prepared to change quite considerably, but you must be warned that if you do choose to become a banana, you will always be a second rate banana because that is not what you were made for.

On the other hand, you could always remain the finest apple. Hmmmm . . . . . . .

You should also realize that if you do choose to become a banana, there will always be people who 

do not like bananas!

So you could spend your whole life trying to become a second-rate banana, or you can remain

THE WORLD'S FINEST APPLE . . . .

God has done a wonderful job making you unique - there is no one else like you!

so, be grateful and be yourself!

^_______^

YA SUDAHLAH

credit to my bff -  mamat who gives this song to me. it gives motivation for me to always move on whatever happen in my life. accept it and be positive. then you will find the way to handle the situation. lets listen~

by : Bondan Prakoso feat Fade to Black

title : Ya Sudahlah

ketika mimpimu yg begitu indah
tak pernah terwujud ya sudahlah
saat kau berlari mengejar anganmu
dan tak pernah sampai ya sudahlah
*
* apapun yg terjadi ku kan selalu ada untukmu
janganlah kau bersedih ’cos everything’s gonna be okay

yo satu dari sekian kemungkinan
kau jatuh tanpa ada harapan
saat itu raga kupersembahkan
bersama jiwa cita cinta dan harapan

kita sambung satu persatu sebab akibat
tapi tenanglah mata hati kita kan lihat
menuntun ke arah mata angin bahagia
kau dan aku tahu jalan selalu ada

juga ku tahu lagi problema kan terus menerjang
bagai deras ombak yang menabrak karang
namun ku tahu ku tahu kau mampu tuk tetap tenang
hadapi ini bersamaku hingga ajal datang

sempat kau berharap keramahan cinta
tak pernah kau dapat ya sudahlah
yeeah dengar ku bernyanyi lalalalalala
heyyeye yaya dedudedadedudedudidam
semua ini belum berakhir

repeat *

satukan langkah langkah yg beriring
genggam hati rangkul emosi
Genggamlah hatiku
satukan langkah kita

sama rasa tanpa pamrih
ini cinta across the sea
peluklah diriku terbanglah bersamaku
melayang jauh (come fly with me, baby)

ini aku dari ujung rambut menyusur jemari
sosok ini yang menerima kelemahan hati
yeah aku cinta kau (ini cinta kita)
cukup satu waktu yes (untuk satu cinta)

satu cinta ini akan tuntun jalanku
rapatkan jiwamu yo tenang di sisiku
rebahkan rasamu untuk yg ditunggu
bahagia hingga ujung waktu

repeat * [3x]

Source: http://liriklaguindonesia.net/b/bondan-prakoso-feat-fade-2-black/bondan-prakoso-feat-fade-2-black-ya-sudahlah/#ixzz1bCsDCRj6

so, whatever things that had happen, just accept it. don't became so fragile and easily influenced by the situation. move on and you will get what you want. 

p/s : lagu ni dh jd lagu feveret yg diulang byk-byk kali tanpa henti. and wish that someone could sing this song live for me. woah! ^_^